Stress is not only a 'silent killer', it can also be a mood killer when it comes to the bedroom. Toxic stress chemicals can dilute our sensitivity to feel pleasure, thus cheating us out of an exciting and romantic love life. Snooze fest!
Whether it's cuddling, caressing, giving or receiving, stress and anxiety are key influencers that prevent us from being in the present moment. When we get caught up in thoughts, fear and worries, the muscles of the body contract, become rigid and our capacity to feel is reduced. If we're lost in the mind, we are not able receive the magic that is happening in the body and present moment. Find out more tips on how you can combat anxiety here.
How to improve your sex life naturally
Premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction in men, and vaginal pain, dryness and tightness in women have many speculated causes. However they can also be greatly attributed to tension, anxiety and stress in the body and mind. This in turn affects self-esteem, confidence, pleasure and intimacy. The good news is that you can use some natural, home remedies to help you and your partner in the bedroom. Essential oils for impotence, love making, arousal, love and romance have been used since the dawn of time for helping with sexual and stress related performance issues in both men and women.
How does aromatherapy relieve stress
Essential oils such as Sandalwood, Patchouli and Rosewood have been used for centuries for stress, anxiety, panic attacks, muscle tension all the while promoting relaxation. Aromatherapy works by helping you to become both present and relaxed in the body, increase sensual awareness, sensitivity and deepen the connection to yourself and to your partner.
Letting go of the pressure of performance, routine ‘tricks of the trade’ or the need to achieve anything in sex, can in fact help both partners enjoy and receive more pleasure. The simple act of breathing exercises and relaxation can naturally open the body to heightened levels of orgasmic bliss and improve your sex life.
Relaxation and arousal can take time and it's very important to respect and honour this preparatory process, as all too often for women, penetration happens before being ready. This causes the vaginal muscles to tighten and sensitivity to diminish, resulting in numbness, pain and dryness.
Just in case you weren't aware, whilst alcohol can be an easy, fun and popular choice to ease tension and boost your confidence, it can also have the opposite effect of de-sensitising the skin. This can negatively affect sexual performance and be emotionally numbing. Great sex happens when both parties are fully present in body and heart – it's in learning how to be more self aware where we can feel more and increase our capacity for sensation.
How to use essential oils for sex drive
Scent and loving touch play a big role in intimacy, helping us to move from the mind and into the body and heart. Aromatherapy massage itself can be extremely healing, as the beneficial properties of the selected oils enter into the blood stream through the skin's membrane, helping to relax and open the body for sex.
You can use essential oils in a massage, oil burners, candles or a relaxing bath to arouse the senses – an essential prerequisite for sex. *Do not used directly on the genitals or internally.
Smells instantly connect us to our senses and aliveness. Therefore aromatherapy oils hold natural potent healing powers that not only smell divine but can naturally uplift your heart, ignite your passionate nature and help you to relax naturally. It's no brainer!
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