How to start showing up for yourself
Are you one of these people who gets annoyed when people don’t show up for you? Or cancel plans last minute? When someone changes their mind last minute or puts something else over what they’ve planned with you? It's annoying right! But are you consciously or unconsciously doing this to yourself? How many times are you half-heartedly making a health goal, wanting to start something new, promising to be kinder to yourself or start a new habit and then backing out last minute and prioritising the switch for something else? Or setting a vague intention and then giving it the brush-off when something better (easier) comes along. Making habit or routine changes is hard, and it's about playing the long game (the direct opposite from what we're sold in magazines) Just like you wouldn’t set out up a mountain trek with a pair of flip-flops, it’s time to get real about the mental arsenal you’re putting together to make these changes. Here's how to make a habit stick...
What You'll Need
- Self belief
- A support team (could be your best friend or an accountability buddy)
What You'll Do
- Set your intention: it is pinning the place you want to go and the direction in which you will travel. Feel free to spend a few minutes visualisation your end point. Really FEEL why you want to do this.
- Get real: what number from 1 - 10 are you making this? Think 8 is good enough? I invite you to ask the question, what’s more important than your health and mental wellbeing?
- Make these promises to yourself as if you were making them to your best friend (who was back from the other side of the world for one lunch for you)
- Keep the date: Make these NON-NEGOTIABLE unless there is an emergency! (And Emma from work’s birthday drinks do not class as an emergency, fyi)
- Call in your support team… who might actually be your best friend! Or get a coach, someone like me, to be your accountability buddy.
- Give yourself a reward for for sticking to your new habit/routine as often as you need e.g. 1 week, 1 month, 6 month. But don’t hold back on treating yourself for too long. Be kind to yourself. Try and make it a proper treat e.g. a massage, a manicure, tickets to something, rather than a slice of cake which you might have classed as ‘naughty’ (when food is just food!)
Tips & Warnings
- Remember, no one's health is more important than yours!
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