11 Ways To Increase Your Positivity
Barbara Fredrikson is the author of Positivity and her work has shown that a reasonable aim is to have a ration of three “heartfelt” positive experiences to each negative experience. This formula requires positive experiences be authentic - just pasting a smile on your face or faking it does not meet the test of authenticity. The ratio of one negative experience to three positive experiences is a tipping point and predicts whether people will flourish or languish. Research shows that each individual has a set point for positive emotions. Some people more naturally gravitate to positivity whereas others more naturally gravitate toward negativity. Because research finds that positivity is more beneficial, those with a general proclivity toward negativity may wonder if they are doomed to having a less happy and rewarding life. Fortunately, they can actively increase their positivity and reap the benefits generated by being more authentically positive.
What You'll Need
- An open mind.
- A willingness to grow.
What You'll Do
- 1. “Find positive meaning in situations.” What is the blessing or gift in each situation and what can be learned from the experience?
- 2. “Savor goodness.” When something pleasant happens enjoy it to its fullest.
- “Count your blessings.” What good things can you be grateful for each day?
- “Kindness counts.” What kind word or act can you offer in the situation you are experiencing?
- “Follow your passions.” Find out what makes you come alive and do it.
- “Dream about your future.” What do you want? If you were to create your best life, what would it be life?
- “Apply your strengths.” Find out what your strengths are and use them often.
- “Connect with others.” No person is an island. We need each other. Build relationships that support and nurture you.
- “Connect with nature.” Take a walk. Watch a sunrise or sunset. Get your feet on the ground. Hug a tree. Splash in a puddle. Breath fresh air. Fly a kite. Let nature nurture you.
- “Open your mind.” Have a beginner’s mind, one that is open to learning new things. Expand your thinking. Invite different perspectives.
- “Open your heart.” How can you be more inclusive? What touches your being?
Tips & Warnings
- Teena Evert, MA, LMFT, LAC, CCTC is executive wellness, career transition and life coach who specializes in helping her clients achieve transformation in their lives both personally and professionally.