Escape Your Comfort Zone and Become More Confident
Each of us has a comfort zone. The place where we feel safe, secure and in control. It's a place where we know what to expect and unsurprisingly, most of us like it there! As safe as it might be, when you push yourself a little and leave your comfort zone, amazing things can happen. We all have ideas about who we are, what we are capable of and how much we can achieve. Leaving the comfort zone challenges these perceptions and you might quickly realise you can do so much more than you thought possible. You can discover new passions and grow in a way that just does not happen inside the comfort zone. All of this leads to an increase in confidence and self-belief.
A few years ago, I travelled solo for the first time, to Dubai, to skydive. I was absolutely fine with the idea of jumping out of a plane but the idea of going away on my own terrified me! My fears ranged from being a victim of crime to having no one to help me if there was a spider in the shower - all my fears were very real to me and I almost didn't go ahead with the trip. I'm happy to say I had a fantastic time and one of the benefits was that it massively increased my confidence. In fact, it led to me travelling to all seven continents in a 12 month period. Leaving the comfort zone can start small with something as simple as smiling at a stranger or taking a different route to work. Each time you achieve something new, it gives a psychological boost and you can take on bigger challenges.
What You'll Need
- An open mind
What You'll Do
- Visualise. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and relax. Visualise yourself as being full of confidence, with an abundance of health, time and money. How are you spending your time? Who are you with? What personal qualities do you have? Give yourself permission to dream big and create a powerful vision of yourself at your most confident. What actions might you need to take to turn your vision into reality?
- Brainstorm. What have you always wanted to do but avoided out of fear or low confidence? What did you love doing as a child that you have lost touch with? What do you need to do to become the version of you that you visualised in the last step? Make a list of everything that comes to mind. Think about the different areas of your life including work, love and your social life.
- Take action. You have a vision and you have a list of activities. Choose something you can do within the next seven days and commit to doing it. Try to make it something that excites you but slightly scares you. Remember, you can start small and work up from there. The key is to do something, anything!
- Set a goal that scares you. Goals can be a powerful source of motivation. What would you like to achieve three months from now? Your goal should be big enough that it stretches you but not so big that it overwhelms you. Break it down into smaller steps and identify what resources you will need. Consider how achieving this goal will positively impact your confidence.
Tips & Warnings
- Each person's comfort zone is unique to them. Don't compare yourself to others and always celebrate your achievements, however big or small.